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UK Brothel Revenue
In the UK brothel owners can make up to £1 million per annum, with women being sold for around £8,000 - over 42 times the average salary in the UK. What's your salary?...
While you were working for a living...
The vast amounts made in the global prostitution industry goes directly into the hands of pimps, traffickers and brothel owners....
The UK Sex Industry
In 2005, the UK sex industry was worth an estimated £1 billion. Since then the growth has been exponential....
Prostitutes on Crack
British Home Office research found that over 90% of street prostitutes take heroin or crack cocaine....
Global Pornography Revenue
In 2006, worldwide pornography revenue was $97.06 billion. Of that, approximately $13 billion was in the United States....
Not $1. Not $10. But $3,075. Every second.
Every second, $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography, and every 39 minutes, a new pornographic video is made in the United States....
Internet Pornography
There are 4.2 million pornographic websites, 420 million pornographic web pages, and 68 million daily pornographic search engine requests....
A World Fit For Children?
According to the Internet Filter Review (2006), the file-sharing network Gnutella has 116,000 daily "child pornography" requests....
Child Porn: A Booming Business
Child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online. Between 2004 and 2006 the number of child abuse domains increased 200%....
Child Porn & Child Abuse
In a study of arrested child pornography possessors, 40% had both sexually victimized children and were in possession of child pornography....
Global Child Porn Revenue
By 2005, child pornography had become a $3 billion annual global industry. Since then its growth has continued to be exponential....
Mobile Porn Revenue
In 2005, worldwide revenue from mobile phone pornography rose to $1 billion and was expected to increase by at least three times that number within a few years. Where are we now?
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1 Million Children Per Year
UNICEF reports that across the world, there are over one million children entering the sex trade every year, and some 30 million children have lost their childhood through sexual exploitation over the past 30 years.
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How Prostitutes Die
In a US study of almost 2,000 prostitutes followed over a 30-year period, by far the most common causes of death were homicide, suicide, drug and alcohol related problems, HIV infection and accidents - in that order.
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Child Prostitutes
According to the US Department of Justice, studies indicate that child prostitutes 'serve' between two and thirty 'clients' per week. That's 100 to 1500 'clients' per year, per child.
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Human Trafficking
Every year, upwards of $19 billion is generated on the street from illegal human trafficking. Who gets this money and what do they do with it?
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'Adult'-Film Industry
The 'adult'-film industry is bigger than ever. In 2003 it was making around 6,000 movies a year and grossing more than $4 billion - roughly as much as the US National Football League....

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Sexual Intimacy and Friendship - Leaflet

Sexual Intimacy and Friendship What makes for beautiful sexual intimacy? An avalanche of erotic desire? Perfectly toned physiques? Alluring lingerie? A romantically adorned bedroom in an expensive house? There’s no doubt that all these things can enrich and beautify sexual intimacy. But there’s one thing which beats them all and without which none of the above satisfy for long. And that’s…friendship.

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What makes for beautiful sexual intimacy? An avalanche of erotic desire? Perfectly toned physiques? Alluring lingerie? A romantically adorned bedroom in an expensive house?

There’s no doubt that all these things can enrich and beautify sexual intimacy. But there’s one thing which beats them all and without which none of the above satisfy for long. And that’s…friendship. Deep, fun, honest, pure, caring, forgiving, enduring, creative, relaxed friendship. True friendship is the heart of satisfying and exciting sexual love.

The friendship at the centre of sexual love has some beautiful inbuilt characteristics. What are these ‘characteristics’? We know them intuitively. If you were in a sexual relationship – sharing complete sexual intimacy – with someone, could you honestly say ‘I love you’ plus any of the following:

(a) ...but not completely
(b) ...but I’m having sex with someone else too
(c) ...but maybe not for always
(d) ...but I don’t want you to have children

Of course not. Say ‘no’ to any of the above and we all know that this sexual ‘I love you’ isn’t quite right. ‘I…something…you’, but not ‘love’, if I’m honest. The love of complete sexual intimacy has (at least) 4 necessary characteristics (things it has to be to be rich and full). It has to be total (‘all of me and everything I have’), exclusive (‘just you’), always (‘the rest of my life’), and open to children (‘he looks just like you!’). This is not to say that if you don’t have all 4 you haven’t got some part of love; but it does mean you don’t have the full thing. It’s not (yet) as good as it gets. So go on: let yourself be challenged. Friendship (not fancy lingerie) is the true secret to satisfying and exciting sexual intimacy.

And you probably noticed: that kind of friendship sounds a lot like…marriage.

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